Workshop

WORKSHOP I –Friday, 9 November, 11:30 – 12:30
WORKSOP II – Friday, 9 November, 14:00 – 15:00
WORKSOP III – Friday, 9 November, 15:15 – 16:15
WORKSOP IV – Friday, 9 November, 16:30 – 17:30
WORKSHOP V – Friday, 10 November, 9:00 – 10:00

1. Every single child is unique and can be successful
As parents and good mentors, we need to adjust our understanding of children’s SUCCESS according to who they really are. We want to work, to think, to actively focus in this direction, precisely so that by discovering the treasure that lives in them, we will be adequately prepared to support them to walk along with confidence that they belong, they are loved and have support.
The quality of the relationships we build with the child determines the effectiveness of the techniques applied in educating them.
Cultivating healthy and loving relationships will make every child strive to keep them, whereas if they do not see any benefit in keeping the relationship intact with the parent or the caretaker, the one who should be there for them, any educational efforts will have a minimal impact.
Even a strong-will child will be more responsive to genuine love and kindness than to creative methods and approaches, brilliant but uninvolved with their person.
Monica Pîrvu – Social Programs Coordinator of the ‘Diaconia’ International Aid Association and Director of the ‘Diaconia’ Day Centre

2. “Emotional Logic in Developing the Emotional Intelligence of the Child”
Starting with the very first days and years of life, life experiences are and can often be tumultuous, stressful or even traumatic. In order to help children have a healthier development and to increase their ability to adapt to everything life and its challenges bring, we all know it is better to train, educate and prevent, rather than treat subsequently.
The emotional component is what shapes the decoding of experiences and later determines the meaning the child / adult will draw from life, relationships, and their own self; over time, these aspects will make up the child’s understanding of the world, people and life, influencing their attitudes, behaviours and actions.
Emotional Logic – is a method by which we can teach and train children (and adults) to properly process their pain caused by loss, stress, pains, distress etc.
Emotional logic wants to teach us how to understand why we feel what we feel, how to calm ourselves more effectively, how to find more functional ways of processing and acting when things go wrong and we are upset.
Ştefania Botez – psychologist, systemic couple and family psychotherapist, President of ACCR (Association of Christian Counsellors in Romania), trainer-supervisor and counsellor within the association.

3. “How Do I Keep My Principles and Integrity in Social Assistance?”
What does it mean to be upright in social care? How can we protect our work principles?
We invite you to a workshop-debate specially designed for social workers, where, by practical examples, we will try to see how to set our principles and how to maintain our integrity in the field of social assistance.
The purpose of the debate is to raise awareness of the risk of integrity loss in everyday practice and to identify ways to avoid or manage it.
(Tatiana Ştefănescu – Principal Social Assistant with “Tzuby’s Kids” Association, and Liviu Mihaileanu, ARFO President)

4. “How can I adopt a child in Romania?”
A workshop that will bust adoption-related myths and where all those interested in adopting a child in Romania will be able to find answers to their questions, see what the process of confirmation, matching, and approval of an adoption is.
The purpose of the workshop is to help all people who intend to adopt a child overcome fears and adoption myths, doubts related to excessive bureaucracy, the procedure’s length, or the stigmatization of children in the protection system.
(Olimpia Indrieş – Head of Legal, Adoptions and Post-Adoptions Service at DGASPC Sibiu, and Liviu Mihaileanu, ARFO President)

5. The Role of Massage and Nutrition in Healing Children from Trauma
There are inner wounds of a child you cannot readily see that are the result of abandonment, emotional, or physical abuse. A long term commitment to loving touch and therapeutic massage with focused nutritional help can have intense healing benefits and fulfills the most basic needs of the child to feel safe, comfortable, and loved. Only then can the child heal, develop properly and thrive, fulfilling the dream of wholeness and connection.
(Janet Feavel – a Certified Massage Therapist, and Nutritional Therapy Practitioner, has completed professional studies in holistic nutrition, therapeutic touch/massage and applies aspects of trauma touch therapy)

6. The Role of Massage in Healing Children from Trauma. Advanced Class
Raising traumatized children takes increasingly deeper knowledge of the effects of trauma and learning how to individualize the touch to meet the special needs of each changing stage or specific diagnoses.
(Janet Feavel – a Certified Massage Therapist, and Nutritional Therapy Practitioner, has completed professional studies in holistic nutrition, therapeutic touch/massage and applies aspects of trauma touch therapy)

7. Practical Massage Therapy Of Child
A parent/caregiver can gain confidence and deeper understanding on how to connect with their child through massage by practicing, both giving and receiving and experiencing the benefit of good touch personally in class.
(Janet Feavel – a Certified Massage Therapist, and Nutritional Therapy Practitioner, has completed professional studies in holistic nutrition, therapeutic touch/massage and applies aspects of trauma touch therapy)

8. Accelerând vindecarea traumelor prin nutriție
To help children in their journey of healing from trauma, diet and nutrition need to be included in an integrated plan to maximize improved brain function, help stabilize emotions, and build stronger immune systems and physical bodies.

(Janet Feavel – a Certified Massage Therapist, and Nutritional Therapy Practitioner, has completed professional studies in holistic nutrition, therapeutic touch/massage and applies aspects of trauma touch therapy)

9. Healing Trauma through Nutrition and Sleep
How does nourishment help in the development and healing of the brain?
Why sleep is important and how to get deep sleep?
(David Lee – President of the ‘New Beginning’ Humanitarian Association)

10. Cycle of Rage
Tantrums feel like they come from nowhere, but they don’t. They feel like they come from nowhere because we are naturally lazy and don’t deal with behavior until we cannot ignore it any longer. There are 7 stages present in most tantrums. During this workshop we will give definition and context for parents to understand tantrums; encourage the adults to be patient and hardworking in this domain; learn the signs of a coming tantrum and stop it before it starts; see how a child have less tantrums: the more tantrums a child has, the more likely they will continue to have tantrums – physically and emotionally.
(David Lee – president of ”Asociația Umanitară Un Nou Început” in Brașov)

11. Signs of Post Traumatic Stress
Outlining the signs, a theoretical and neurological description of post traumatic stress, and suggestions for children with Post Traumatic Stress.
(David Lee – President of the ‘New Beginning’ Humanitarian Association)

12. Trauma and Health
Trauma changes our body too
We will discover together the links between childhood trauma and lifetime health, which are the trauma-sensitive body parts.
Find out your ACE score.
(David Lee – President of the ‘New Beginning’ Humanitarian Association)

13. Trauma and Sensory Processing Difficulties: Tips and Tricks to Survive the Day
For parent/caregivers of children who may have difficulties with Sensory Processing, whether they have received a diagnosis or not. This is a common factor for children and young people who have experienced trauma or have developmental disabilities. This workshop will highlight the link between the trauma that orphans and vulnerable children face and the resulting challenges in sensory processing. We will explore practical day to day strategies to help these children, their families, and their caregivers live with less breakdowns, more understanding, and a better quality of life.
(Erin Arant, Occupational therapist, Ukrainian Society of Ergotherapy)

14. The Effect of Adoption on Biological Children: A Snapshot of the Experience
Along with her family, Erin Arant, welcomed her sister into her home in 2008. In this talk, Erin will share her firsthand experience of how the adoption of her sister affected her and how she had to learn how to adapt to sharing her parents, her sisters, her home, and her life with someone else. She will also share about how adoptive parents with biological children can help to provide an environment for a smooth transition into expanding their family to include a non biological sibling.
(Erin Arant, Occupational therapist, Ukrainian Society of Ergotherapy)

15. Spiritual Warfare: The Realities of Satan’s Attack and How We Can Stand Against Him in the Victory of Jesus Christ
If religion that is pure and undefiled before God the Father includes caring for the orphans and widows in their affliction, shouldn’t we then expect some resistance from the enemy when doing so? This workshop explains the reality of spiritual warfare in OVC care and why, sometimes, it may seem like you can’t catch a break. Thankfully, in Christ, we are already victorious! We just have to believe in that victory and stand up, in truth, against the enemy and his evil schemes to steal, kill, and destroy.
(Erin Arant, Occupational therapist, Ukrainian Society of Ergotherapy)

16. Stress and burnout – practical aspects
Hardships and stress are two things we cannot avoid in life. But how can we handle them before it’s too much, before it leads to burnout – total exhaustion? During this workshop we will discuss the issues that lead to burnout, give participants the opportunity to self-assess their stress levels and develop a personalized management plan.
(Anda Mogos – psychotherapist and author of two books “A Way Through Mourning” and “Sexual Education in the Family”)

17. Talks about sex: how to approach the topic of sexuality with children?
Our generation grew up with the stork’s storyline as the epitome of sexual education in childhood – and that leaves us with a challenge of our own. This workshop will answer the question: how can we handle this subject in discussions with our children? When do we tell them and what? Even more so, how can we address sexuality in a way that, through these discussions, we help them protect themselves from sexual abuse?
(Anda Mogos – psychotherapist and author of two books “A Way Through Mourning” and “Sexual Education in the Family”)

18. Mental Disorders – Practical Management Aspects *
We often hear the phrase “I will lose my mind” – but what do we do when we actually suspect that our mental health is at risk? In this workshop we will discuss the most common mental disorders – depression and anxiety. We will also learn how to act when symptoms occur and we start to think we need specialised help.
(Anda Mogos – psychotherapist and author of two books “A Way Through Mourning” and “Sexual Education in the Family”)

19. Disclosing the adoption
From the moment the adopted child comes into your family, one of the key things for you to do is to reveal the “adoption secret” and talk to them about their past. It’s a difficult thing to do, because we don’t like talking about suffering and negative things, so we tend to put them over as much we can. Postponing this conversation can have long-term negative effects on both the child’s development and parent-child relationships. If you find this a difficult subject, come to this workshop where you will hear an impressive adoption testimony and the experiences that followed after the adoption was revealed.
(Julianna Citirigă, Social Assistant at the ‘New Beginning’ Association, NGO from Braşov authorised to carry out adoption-related activities)

20. Wrap-Around Care: A Model for Local Churches to Serve Foster and Adoptive Families
Some Christians are called to foster or adopt a child, opening their hearts and homes to children in need. While not all are called to foster or adopt, we are all called to care and serve. Join us to learn how the local church may surround foster or adoptive families with care. From a simple meal, to a listening ear; from a mother’s morning of rest to a couple’s night of respite; from a shoulder to cry on to a soul to pray with, everyone can do something
(David și Lisa Hennessey – Director CAFO Global Network)

21. Overcoming Fear: Serving Amidst the Chaos
Caring for vulnerable children is not reaching into a pit to rescue a child from the chaos and trauma that is their life. We enter the pit to stand next to the child, hold their hand, build their trust, and gently guide them out over a period of years. When we join them in the chaos, it will attach to us as well and become part of our story. Join me to hear my biggest fear and how God turned it into my biggest blessing.
(David Hennessey – Director CAFO Global Network)

22. Help when adoption has apparently failed
We pursued this wonderful dream – adoption. We had so many ideas of how we would be as parents. How we would lead our children through life and how wonderful it would be … but everything is different! Nothing we tried has worked. We are so disappointed. We feel like screaming: ”Stop the bus! I want to get off!”. In this workshop, we will openly speak about the expectations and realistic approaches when the relationship with the adopted child seems so different than what we imagined.
(Alex Ilie – Executive Director for ARFO, father of four adopted children; David Hannessy, adoptiv parent, Director CAFO Global Network)

23. Discipline for children who have suffered trauma
This workshop will discuss the important challenges of shaping the behavior of children or adolescents with a history of trauma. Although we have a tendency to try to change their behavior quickly, this workshop will argue for bringing change in a more profound way, focusing on an internal transformation, which results in a change in behavior. Raising children and adolescents who have suffered trauma isn’t something that can be done quickly, but is rather like a marathon, full of care and love.
(Corina Caba – Founder and Director of the Casa Speranței Foundation in Oradea, mother of four adopted children)

24. Children’s emotional needs and parenting skills
Have you ever wondered what we, as grownups, need to do to help children reach their potential? What is it that makes some adults so attractive for children? And what makes some children explore their limits more than others? Together, we will find out what we need to consider when supporting a child during their development. What we can do as adults to be authentic in our relationship with them and how to build a healthy relationship with others. It is such a joy to witness those unique moments when a child takes their first steps, still stumbling and insecure. Yet we want them to keep on going safer and safer, and even run as soon as possible. Such are the emotional and physical needs. Meeting their physical needs helps children take their first steps, but when we respond adequately to the children’s emotional needs, we encourage them to move from the first shy steps to run and even gain speed and develop endurance. Let’s discover together what skills we have and how to develop them even further!
(Adela Şetet – Social Assistant and Manager of the Center for Training and Evaluation in Social Assistance)

25. The process of adjusting to the adoptive family for the child from the protection system and solutions for future parents
The transition of a child from the protection system (maternal care or residential centers) into the adoptive family is a long-lasting process requiring a huge amount of energy from all parties involved. When this process is not understood or given too little importance, it can cause difficulties for both the child and the family. The relationships developed by the child in the past are part of their life, and new parents do not always know how to handle the baggage the child comes with and the experiences he has experienced. The people with whom the child has developed relationships of trust, attachment, or loyalty can be involved in the adjustment process and can be an important resource for the child and the future family. Throughout the workshop, we will explore these resources together and discover how they can be used for the child and the family.
(Ana Rădulescu – Associate Professor at the Faculty of Sociology and Social Assistance, University of Bucharest, and General Director of the Association of Social Assistants in Romania / ASproAS, European President of the International Federation of Social Assistants (IFSW) and Founder of the Training and Evaluation Center in Social Assistance-CFCECAS)

26. Love through the child and parent’s eyes
The workshop helps participants understand the complexity of the human mental works called “love.” Not just a human feeling but also a set of actions, love is manifested differently according to the level of development of the human being. When these humans are a child and their parent, this deep feeling, expressed through a series of behaviors, feels and looks very different. That is why in every parent-child relationship there is a risk of confusion, misunderstanding, conflict, aggression and violence. This workshop will clarify these differences, provide a roadmap for the risks of relational entanglements between children and parents, as well as intervention markers to facilitate a healthier relationship of parents with their children.
(Diana Vasile – PhD, professor, speaker and trainer, President of the Institute for Trauma Research and Treatment).

27. Playing, a tool accesible to any parent
Playing is essential in children’s development. Through play, children develop social and emotional skills. Through play, we build trust and cast out fear. Through play, we create solid relationships. Through play, we can correct a child and then we can reconnect with them. Through play, we change the structure of the brain.
(Alina Muntean – Psychologist)

28. Feuerstein: the instrumental enrichment program
The Instrumental Enrichment Program is a series of non-curricular tasks aimed at enhancing learning abilities through various cognitive exercises. Designed to enhance learning abilities and thinking strategies, the instrumental enrichment program is a series of non-curricular paper and pencil tasks, focusing on motor-perceptual function. During the sessions, a trained Feuerstein mediator leads learners through increasingly complex cognitive tasks and works with them on how to analyze a problem and how to solve it systematically.
(Joyce McAttee Howerton – mother of 6 children (2 adopted), trainer of the Feuerstein method)

38. All Behavior is Adaptive: Increasing the Effectiveness of Interventions with Traumatized Children
Trauma changes the brains of our kids from hard places – and radically impacts their current behavior. When we understand the adaptive nature of behaviors – we can use two-fold method of “Understand” and “Replace” to help our kids grow into the people they were meant to be.
In this workshop we will explore the “why” of difficult behaviors, and learn how we can help kids from trauma grow past the survival-based behaviors that sabotage their ability to connect with others, to experience success, and to see themselves as precious.
(Diane Pulvermiller and Melanie Dewey – Mercy Ministries)

39. Practices and Interventions for Young Adult Orphans Who Have Not Found Their Forever Home
Many young people who grow up in institutionalized settings are not fortunate enough to get “home,” and instead find themselves woefully unprepared for life on their own once they age out of the care system. We will explore how we can walk alongside these young adults – incorporating both bottom-up (body-based) and top-down (cognitive) strategies – to empower them and help them overcome lifelong defense systems which impede trust. We will also explore how we can prepare ourselves for these relationships which will test our resolve.
(Diane Pulvermiller and Melanie Dewey – Mercy Ministries)

40. A Long Sacred Journey: Spiritual Formation With the Crushed
If the journey of the human soul is of utmost importance, how are we to make this journey with and among those who are abandoned, wounded and traumatized? Caregivers and advocates for orphans experience tremendous challenges. How do we tend to the soul—our own souls, and the precious souls of the children and youth we serve? With the constant threat of exhaustion and burnout, how can we not only sustain our work, but actually thrive?
In our calling to this particular work, we have an opportunity to share this spiritual journey with those we serve – together drawing nourishment for abundant life together through the passage of intermingled wounds and joys. The workshop will explore both perspectives and practices for this holy and life-giving journey.
(Scott Dewey – Mercy Ministries)

41. The adoption experience for a single parent
To be an adoptive mother is not easy, but when you are doing it alone, it has its own challenges. We will share our personal experiences of the hardships as we as the joys of being a single mom, and raising an adopted child alone.
(Corina Caba & Sarah Nicole Smith, single adoptive mothers)

42. Attachment disturbances and practical ways to help parents and children
EVERY foster/adopted child has some form of attachment problems, no matter what age the child was adopted at. Some children are even diagnosed with RAD (Reactive Attachment Disorder), which is common for children who were moved from one home to another, more than once. In the workshop I will tell you about the different forms of attachment problems and also give you practical ways to help your child.
(Sarah Nicole Smith, TBRI accredited psychotherapist, foster parent)

43. How to help the child in transition from AMP to home
A question I get over and over from adoptive parents is “How do we help the child transition from their foster home into our home?” And it is a great question because this transition is a big part of your child’s life. We will discuss practical thing you can do before your child makes this transition and also thing you can do to help your child after they come home.
(Sarah Nicole Smith, TBRI accredited psychotherapist, foster parent)